It’s everywhere, it’s everything! Self absorbed superficial narcissists infect our lives and our society creates them. From youth we are exposed to a pop culture that values beauty over brains and money over morals. At what point do we stop ourselves and think, “What do I believe?”
Not everyone you cross is a true narcissist, and trust me, you will recognize one when you meet them. I mean really meet them. It’s a vibe, an aura, and a harsh realization of someone’s true colors that hits you. See, narcissists can fly under the radar before you figure them out. By then, they will have their teeth sunk in you (figuratively speaking). They are master manipulators lining things up for their own self serving needs.
What do you do when you realize a narcissist has attached themselves to your life?
Could be a partner, a family member, or a friend that has this grip on you. Maybe they resonate a sense of duty, obligation, or responsibility to you, and your questioning why you let it go on because it’s toxic to your own cosmic journey. In all honesty there are only two choices here, make the best of the situation or change it. Ask yourself, are you ready to let them go?
Start by giving yourself credit on a couple important things:
- You have elevated enough to recognize the bullshit society teaches about self worth, and are ready to refine how you see yourself. There is no other you, and the relationship you build with yourself is the one that maters most in this world.
- The way others treat you, specifically narcissists, says nothing about you as a person. You do not deserve to be shamed, blamed, or caught in a life of servitude for another person’s ego.
Now that we got that out of the way, what can you do to deal with a narcissist? My first piece of advice is obvious, get the narcissist out of your life, but that is usually easier said then done. So, the only other piece of advice is to make the best out of a bad situation as you look to change it. How do you do that? Well, a big slice of humble pie!
- You cannot sink to their level and adopt toxic ways to argue. Simply leave them to their beliefs and disengage.
- Do what you think is right for you and don’t allow narcissists to influence your decisions, belief systems, or self worth.
- Don’t allow narcissists to impact your other relationships. This can be difficult as they like to seclude you from others or push opinions of others on you. You know what’s right!
- Take an inventory on things that you need for self-care. Make sure you prioritize your needs above others.
- Practice meditation, exercise, listen to mood lifting music, travel, laugh, love, and live! Actively work to maintain a sense of peacefulness and live in the moment always.
If it gets to be too much, just remove this person from your life. It’s okay to care about toxic people but it doesn’t mean you have to stop caring about yourself. You will never change a narcissist. So stop trying!